Author name: Shaelene

  Grief is a strange and beautiful beast. It knows no boundaries and doesn’t care if you are standing in the middle of the frozen foods aisle of Shoprite. Grief will come bounding around the corner to greet you at the MOST inconvenient times. Grief also requires space. A lot of it. It doesn’t follow […]

Winter. Each year it surprises me. I notice myself thinking, “the cold won’t be that bad! And actually, I’m looking forward to comfy layers and slowing down for a few months.” Which is true! Late fall and winter certainly have their upsides. At the same time, the reduction in light and temperature can also take

Ain’t that the truth. These are lyrics are from the song, “Cause I’m a Man” by Tame Impala. I find them quite fitting for the title of this post. Not only are these lyrics frequently floating around my head – they also push me into using opposite action – cause I often need a push!

I like to joke and call myself a thirty year old grandma (and for any of my clients reading this- yes I’m dinging myself for this judgement!). The reason for this is I look forward to an episode of wheel of fortune and Jeopardy every night, I love hanging out with my cats, and I

I’m putting laundry away (what feels like the one millionth basket) when my middle son walks in with a serious look on his face as he approaches me. Son: “Mom why do humans feel pain” Me: “Ugh…. well… because we have nerves and the nerves sense sensations and communicate to the brain, ouch that hurts…

Trauma-informed yoga. It sounds a bit technical, doesn’t it? Most people don’t stop to think much about it. Some let the words pass down their screen during a scroll, or perhaps read through the words on a flyer without a second glance. Ultimately, I don’t think most people believe it applies to them. And so

Wise mind: the place where reasonable mind and emotion mind meet. It is being able to see the value in both reason and emotion, plus tapping into a felt sense, our intuition, our inner knowing. Wise mind brings with it a greater sense of peace, openness and clarity. So why is it that wise mind

I can not begin to tell you how long I have been staring at this blank, untitled, google document page with my text cursor blinking and blinking and blinking at me. Blog topic…’interpersonal effectiveness skill of your choice’… I picked this topic. I thought this would be easy. No biggie. Piece of cake. So why

To all my fellow anxious people, how are you doing? No really. How are you doing? Over a year ago, the world came to a standstill because of the pandemic. Many have described it as the embodiment of Groundhog Day where every day feels like a Tuesday in March. We are expected to maintain ‘business

Things are still really hard right now, right? I say “still” of course because at this point, the pandemic is not new, We at DBT of SJ have been working from home for exactly a year now (wow), but for me everything feels just as stressful as it did a year ago. Of course there