Author name: Shaelene

It is so easy to get caught up in everyday life and the hustle and bustle of what needs to get done.  As someone who’s personal motto is to do more, be better, try harder I often have to use mindfulness to slow down and accumulate the positives in life.    Accumulating positives sounds like […]

Wiping the dust off of this blog and realizing this will be the first (and likely only) post of 2018. I’m okay with it though. My motto of the year has been “DBT of South Jersey, we strive for imperfection!”-and isn’t that the truth?! It’s quite fitting since the end of the year is when

One of the core skills in DBT is Wise Mind. Getting in touch with your Wise Mind and recognizing what state of mind you’re is a foundation of skillful behavior. Being in Wise Mind feels like a sense of stability, spaciousness, and deep knowing. I’ll describe the way I like to think about Wise Mind. Wise

In case you didn’t know, I’m a psychologist who specializes in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). My favorite part about DBT is that these skills are helpful for everyone, and I use them every day. Let’s be real, as a brand new mom I need them now more than ever! There is a lot that I

Recently I completed a course of physical therapy on my left wrist, which had developed arthritis, a cyst, and a malformed ligament.  I broke my left wrist ice skating with my boyfriend when I was 19 years old, during a cold Iowa and Minnesota winter while on a concert band tour.  I don’t even want

Often we don’t think that mindfulness is a practical skill. Many people still believe that mindfulness must look like a more formal meditation practice, but I’ve found that everyday mindfulness makes a difference in big and not-so-big ways. This past Easter, my husband David and I were traveling from Ohio back to Texas when our

As a therapist, I often aim to practice what I preach. Not only because I feel more genuine in the work I do with my clients… But because this stuff (particularly DBT of course) works! Practicing what I preach in my personal life has improved how I handle what life has thrown my way. This

In the past I let my feelings of guilt, when justified or unjustified, control my thoughts and behaviors.  If I didn’t attend every event that I was invited to, I felt guilty.  If I said something that hurt someone’s feelings without any intention to hurt them, I felt guilty.  If I wanted to go to

Driving in the car each day is probably the one point when I am completely alone, without distractions. I consider myself to be an introvert, and I usually enjoy the quiet time in the car at the beginning and end of each work day, or at the beginning and end of any social interactions, to

An ongoing struggle of mine is giving myself permission to rest without guilt. Doing nothing strangely involves much work and it feels easy to see why I’m driven to constantly be moving. Earlier this week in graduate group, the topic of non-doing came up. It seems that a judgement would surface when the skill to