Author name: Shaelene

I saw this image show up on the feed of another therapist friend. (Shout out to Brian at @Welcome_connections in Collingswood!) I liked the image of course, because I could resonate with the need of a reframe. When everyone asks how I’m doing amidst the coronavirus quarantine, I usually respond “doing okay”. I mean, I […]

Changes are hard. Everyone says it. We all know it. But until we are in a position ourselves of being in transition or making a huge life change, we really don’t know what it’s going to be like for us. Planning a wedding and getting married is stressful. I have some friends that LOVED the

5…4…3…2…1… Happy New Year!!!! People begin to give hugs, kiss each other, cheers their beverages, bang pots and pans, and some spend the rest of the night dancing away. AND THEN….the question arises…‘So what is your New Year’s Resolution?’   Oh, I am going to eat SUPER HEALTHY. Who me? I am so going to

“Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.” ― Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha When I first started learning DBT, I arrived at the skill of radical acceptance and observed a gut reaction: my brain and body said “OH HELL NO!”. “Accepting

“It is not joy that makes us grateful. It is gratitude that makes us joyful.” –David Steindl-Rast In the spirit of Thanksgiving…gratitude. I often feel gratitude for the simple things in my daily life. A cup of hot coffee in the morning, a sweet encounter with a stranger, arriving home to see Joe after a

Hey out there! It’s me again! I know, it’s been some time (again) right? Whenever I share on this blog my intention is to share with purpose. Not to share just because I enjoy talking (or writing) about myself. So here I am writing this out in the notes section of my phone because I

I am currently riding the rollercoaster emotions of with my youngest child going to college out of state. Can anybody relate? September is a busy month for most with the official shift from Summer to Fall. Whether it’s having a new baby, starting up the school year, changing schools, moving, or the dreaded Monday blues,

It is so easy to get caught up in everyday life and the hustle and bustle of what needs to get done.  As someone who’s personal motto is to do more, be better, try harder I often have to use mindfulness to slow down and accumulate the positives in life.    Accumulating positives sounds like

Wiping the dust off of this blog and realizing this will be the first (and likely only) post of 2018. I’m okay with it though. My motto of the year has been “DBT of South Jersey, we strive for imperfection!”-and isn’t that the truth?! It’s quite fitting since the end of the year is when

One of the core skills in DBT is Wise Mind. Getting in touch with your Wise Mind and recognizing what state of mind you’re is a foundation of skillful behavior. Being in Wise Mind feels like a sense of stability, spaciousness, and deep knowing. I’ll describe the way I like to think about Wise Mind. Wise